"Come on, just go with the flow."
I am fascinated by people's willingness to go along with suboptimal, or even really bad, decisions because other people are doing it. As if a group making a poor choice makes it somehow into a good choice.
When someone asks me to go with the flow I know there is no rational explainable reason to go proceed. So I don't. If there was a good reason to proceed they would entice me with a good reason.
The group lemming like mentality is powerful and we all have felt it. "Come on, just one beer." "Come on, it will be fun." "Come on, what can it hurt?" "Come on, you need a break." All sound enticing, but to the alcoholic, the person feeling overworked, the person sensing their conscience, or the potential procrastinator, these are words leading to destruction.
Going with the flow manifests itself in unexpected places: A 4 year old chasing a ball because the other kids chase it. Middle school kids smoking because they are with other kids smoking and don't want to be rejected. Adults not working on the weekend because their friends aren't working this weekend as perhaps they feel like they aren't successful if they say they are working. Professionals engaging in undisclosed conflict of interest activities because a group of their peers are all going.
Professional excellence is not achieved by following the masses to a lower level. Perhaps it will create a short term feeling of less pressure. Perhaps it will provide a short term monetary enticement. So while swimming downstream may appear easier, that is also where the waterfalls and ocean are. It is where fish go when they die.
Even a dead fish will go downstream and be swept into the ocean. Better to be live and vibrant and select a destination right or you then proceed toward your future.